Fight, Forgive and Forget!

1st Part: The Conflict

When I was in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, there was a time that he will be leaving the Philippines because he will be spending his summer in Japan. I felt bad because it was my first time to experience a long distance relationship. He told about it ahead of time so we were able to bond until his departure day. I asked permission to my mom if she can allow me to join my boyfriend and his classmates in Tagaytay for his despedida party at 7pm. My mom agreed but suddenly she changed her mind. I started arguing her until I cried. I was crying all the time and was shouting at my mom. I say,"This is the last day that my boyfriend and I will be together, and yet, you will ruin it?! How come you could do this to me?". What my mom did, she called my boyfriend and told what is happening that moment.

I. COHERENCE

• content : "Mom, could you please allow me to join my boyfriend's despedida party in tagaytay later? He will fetch me here around 7pm." (She allowed me but suddenly changed her mind) "No, it's too late to go out!"
• speech act :Mom was raising her voice, showing an angry face while she was talking. I was hardly stomping the floor, tapping the table and crying all the time to please my mom until my boyfriend came in our house.
• episode: I was being scolded by mom in our living room around 7pm.
• relationships: Mother-Daughter relationship. Even though she did not allow me, I had no choice but to stay at home. All of the crying and reasoning I did, none of them helped me. Mom was just scolding me all throughout.
• self-concept: I believe that I am tough enough to convince my mom. I kept on pleasing her to say "yes".
• cultural pattern: I was able to realize her purpose of not allowing me when I calmed down.As a mother, she was just protecting me from the possible accidents that may happen at night. I am still her dependent and I must respect her no matter how angry I may be to her.

II. COORDINATION

• What my mom did for me not to have any hard feelings, she called right away my boyfriend when I started to act rude. She asked him to come over our house and spend the whole night with me. 

III. MYSTERY

• I did not expect that my mom would allow my boyfriend to stay over our house. As I know my mother, she is strict when it comes to our love life. But then I guess, she was able to understand my situation that time. 

2nd Part: The Resolution

I sincerely apologized to my mom for all the bad attitudes I showed her that night. I did not mean it. My emotions initially went uncontrolled because all I thought I would not be able to see my boyfriend anymore. However, we settled our conflict peacefully and I promised I would not do it again.

Stop, Look and Listen!

Cultivation theory is basically pointing out the influence of television which cultivates the perception of viewers on reality. According to Gerbner, Television is a medium of the socialization of most people into standardized roles and behaviors.

I used to have a habit when I was younger, wherein, I strictly watch for my favorite shows right after getting home from school. No one could please me to get out in front of it unless the show is done. There were several TV shows that I adore and somehow believe in, such as Discovery Channel, Ripley's Believe it or Not and Jessica Soho Reports. I made them my favorites because it fills up the mind of people with things that exist and have not seen yet with their bare eyes. A guy who can pull a truck using his full force, monk who can float himself out of meditation and many scenes from television that made me realize and believe in, less than a hundred percent. I could say that television had been an influential device that helped me compose myself. It is not necessary to portray what the people exactly do on tv but to reflect; as well as to imply in life. In my opinion, they only serve as models because everything is still up to me. I decide what to believe in, who to look up, when to move, where to go and how to deal with the happenings around. Indeed, person controls the cultivation he or she wants to experience.  

Face Do The Talking.

According to Ting-Toomey, Face Negotiation is  a concept that deals with how different people and cultures place importance and value on identity and how conflict is handled by those within those cultures. The theory rests on the differing experiences and perceptions of individualistic and collectivist cultures. The theory is largely used in two or more parties have differing opinions or known as the 'conflict negotiation'. However,there are resolutions that could mutually satisfy everyone which may lead to the success of resolving the conflict.

Based from my experience, I have been into various type of conflicts with different set of people when I was still working under Guest Relations Department at Enchanted Kingdom. My job there was a ticket taker who  collects ticket from the guests, places wrist tag, measures the height of each children that will enter the park  and answers the queries of any guests all the time. I thought It was that easy to be in a simple kind of work but it suddenly turned out to be stressful for me because I do a lot of talking time to time. There was a time that the weather was rainy and a guy wanted to purchase the REGULAR DAY PASS TICKET worth 500 pesos which he can access all the EK-owned rides except the concessionaires. So I explained to him that whenever it rains 30 minutes after entering the park, there will be no refund prior to the purchasing policy. I kept on repeating it slowly for him to sink in. Unfortunately,  He did not get my point and started to make a scene in front of a crowd. I could say that he reacted wrong to my explanation. He also claimed that I was forcing him to buy the RDP Ticket even if it rains that pushed him to buy it. From that scenario, I used preventive framework during the intervals of our conversation to avoid getting it bigger. But no matter how careful I was, the conflict still ended unresolved.  

I and Me

Self is divided into two different identities. First, I. It is said to be the thought of a person that is less involved in the social views. While Me, is the most involved in the social circle. It is when an individual based their actions towards other people's view on them. 

Example 1. I= I want to wear a red lipstick today in school. 

    Me= My friends noticed that red lipstick looked good on me. 

Basically, my thought of wearing a RED lipstick in school made me confident bringing myself which explains the meaning of "I". Since my friends noticed and complimented it, I got flattered all throughout the day which explains the meaning of "Me"because the view of others were involved already.

Example 2. I= My crush is really handsome. I guess he likes me too!

    Me= My friends said that he is not handsome and got no feelings for me.

You are who you are!

 Altercasting is said to be a strategy oftentimes used in advertisements and health promotions.  Manded Altercasting represents what the person is supposed to do in a given situation because he occupies a certain status in the society. For example, Parents often start with "You as a student must....." every time they scold or advice us about our grades and school performances. They know that a student must possess characteristics that will make him do good in school. 

While Tact Altercasting means, a person put himself as a sender in a role that evokes a natural counter-role for the other. In relation to the given example in the first type of altercasting, parents should possess good characteristics for their children to adapt and apply it in life. Indeed, they must serve as models to their sons and daughters to have better life and family in the future. Another good example of it are house maids. They were hired to maintain the cleanliness of the house, cook meals every morning, afternoon and evening, take care of the children when her boss went out, and other house chores. The role of the maid is to accomplish things that their boss could not manage because they were too busy in their careers. Since the maid was the one who is responsible for her boss' properties, she must show that she can be depended on without someone saying that to her. 

Blog Entry 2: What? Is that real?

So far, the latest article that contained the idea of agenda-setting personally was tackled November 2010. It was about the supposed death of Ka Roger that have been the talk of the town. Several rumors came out that he died two years ago yet his body was still missing. Nobody could clear even his family the truth happened to him. I was also wondering why the news came out late if Ka Roger died two years ago. However, I have noticed also that the media made the issue more complicated from the way it used to be. If their service was to reveal the truth to the public, then why are they delaying those issues if the exact incident happened long time ago? Media must be just and honest to the masses because it is the source of happenings not only in the country but also around the world. It could influence a person or a group through its capabilities anytime and anywhere. Perhaps, media must put limitations but not too much, they must not exploit fragile cases like the bus hostage taking happened previously and media must expose the truth no matter what. 

"MILITARY YET TO VERIFY KA ROGER'S SUPPOSED DEATH

A ranking military official on Monday said he strongly believes that rebel leader Gregorio “Ka Roger" Rosal had already died of a lingering illness, but admitted that such information is unverified.

Lt. Gen. Roland Detabali, commander of the Armed Forces’ Southern Luzon Command, said this was based on intelligence information they received from the field. He said Rosal died two years ago. “We have intelligence report that he (Rosal) passed away long ago. He expired while being transported out of a hospital," said Detabali. However, Detabali admitted that they have yet to verify Rosal’s supposed death. “We have yet to confirm, validate it....We have problems locating the body...His family wont also say (what happened to him)," he said. Detabali said even NPA leaders and members who had surrendered to the military had no information about Rosal, who was once a visible rebel leader. Detabali also noted that Rosal had stopped issuing statements to the media. The official also said that before the reported death of Rosal, the military has credible information that Rosal’s health was deteriorating. Rosal is the head of the New People’s Army’s Melito Glor Command and the spokesman of the Communist Party of the Philippines (CPP). The CPP will mark its 42nd anniversary on December 26. The military on Sunday said they would likely recommend to President Benigno Aquino III to declare a Christmas truce with NPA rebels. - KBK, GMANews.TV

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Blog Entry 1: What are you really trying to say?

I bet that everyone had experienced already misinterpretations in their lives. Personally, I had one that I could never forget. That was the time when Super Typhoon "Ondoy" occurred the Philippines. I was staying in Manila that time and I was able to witness the heavy rain, no electricity, no water and high flood. The roads were extremely inaccessible due to the flood so my parents were not able to fetch and bring me in a safer place, our home in Laguna. My roommates and I got stranded for about two days in the dorm , the only food available was my stock of biscuits and low volume of water left in the water dispenser. Luckily, I was able to reserve my phone's battery and used it in calling my family continuously until I reached them even though the signal was very poor that time. I had a hard time relaying my concerns and updating my condition to my parents because of that. Perhaps, I was able to talk with them for only a minute and told them that I was having difficulty in getting enough signal to contact them. I informed them also that there was nothing to panic because I was safe in the dorm.Suddenly, the line turned down and I could not longer reached them after the line got cut. I felt bad because I was so worried to my  too. In the evening, I told my roommates that I could not go to sleep. And they thought that I still wanted to stay up late so they invited me to share stories the whole night. But the truth was, I could not sleep because it was too hot in our room since electricity's down all over the town.

Based-on my opinion, locutionary is the sensitive stage among the rest of the speech act. Everything follows once locutionary has been made. A person must be particular on how he delivers a certain thought so that the person whom he is talking would not be confused.