Fight, Forgive and Forget!

1st Part: The Conflict

When I was in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, there was a time that he will be leaving the Philippines because he will be spending his summer in Japan. I felt bad because it was my first time to experience a long distance relationship. He told about it ahead of time so we were able to bond until his departure day. I asked permission to my mom if she can allow me to join my boyfriend and his classmates in Tagaytay for his despedida party at 7pm. My mom agreed but suddenly she changed her mind. I started arguing her until I cried. I was crying all the time and was shouting at my mom. I say,"This is the last day that my boyfriend and I will be together, and yet, you will ruin it?! How come you could do this to me?". What my mom did, she called my boyfriend and told what is happening that moment.

I. COHERENCE

• content : "Mom, could you please allow me to join my boyfriend's despedida party in tagaytay later? He will fetch me here around 7pm." (She allowed me but suddenly changed her mind) "No, it's too late to go out!"
• speech act :Mom was raising her voice, showing an angry face while she was talking. I was hardly stomping the floor, tapping the table and crying all the time to please my mom until my boyfriend came in our house.
• episode: I was being scolded by mom in our living room around 7pm.
• relationships: Mother-Daughter relationship. Even though she did not allow me, I had no choice but to stay at home. All of the crying and reasoning I did, none of them helped me. Mom was just scolding me all throughout.
• self-concept: I believe that I am tough enough to convince my mom. I kept on pleasing her to say "yes".
• cultural pattern: I was able to realize her purpose of not allowing me when I calmed down.As a mother, she was just protecting me from the possible accidents that may happen at night. I am still her dependent and I must respect her no matter how angry I may be to her.

II. COORDINATION

• What my mom did for me not to have any hard feelings, she called right away my boyfriend when I started to act rude. She asked him to come over our house and spend the whole night with me. 

III. MYSTERY

• I did not expect that my mom would allow my boyfriend to stay over our house. As I know my mother, she is strict when it comes to our love life. But then I guess, she was able to understand my situation that time. 

2nd Part: The Resolution

I sincerely apologized to my mom for all the bad attitudes I showed her that night. I did not mean it. My emotions initially went uncontrolled because all I thought I would not be able to see my boyfriend anymore. However, we settled our conflict peacefully and I promised I would not do it again.

Stop, Look and Listen!

Cultivation theory is basically pointing out the influence of television which cultivates the perception of viewers on reality. According to Gerbner, Television is a medium of the socialization of most people into standardized roles and behaviors.

I used to have a habit when I was younger, wherein, I strictly watch for my favorite shows right after getting home from school. No one could please me to get out in front of it unless the show is done. There were several TV shows that I adore and somehow believe in, such as Discovery Channel, Ripley's Believe it or Not and Jessica Soho Reports. I made them my favorites because it fills up the mind of people with things that exist and have not seen yet with their bare eyes. A guy who can pull a truck using his full force, monk who can float himself out of meditation and many scenes from television that made me realize and believe in, less than a hundred percent. I could say that television had been an influential device that helped me compose myself. It is not necessary to portray what the people exactly do on tv but to reflect; as well as to imply in life. In my opinion, they only serve as models because everything is still up to me. I decide what to believe in, who to look up, when to move, where to go and how to deal with the happenings around. Indeed, person controls the cultivation he or she wants to experience.